You'll never find a rainbow if you are looking down!
It's hard to put into words what a bad or rough patch is until you have been through it yourself.It's a period when absolutely everything goes topsy-turvy. It's like a roller coaster ride that you don’t enjoy at all or want to get off as soon as possible.
During this period, your people not only abandon you but become the cause of your suffering. This period can last from 3 months to 3 years. One faces problems either physically, emotionally, economically, or socially. If it gets worse, one can face obstacles on all fronts, even together!
I underwent pain, betrayal, and hardships on every front. My strongest pillar, my parents-in-law, whom I worshipped like God, disowned me to side with their son. My husband, whom I loved beyond words, fell out of love and cheated on me. I was devastated. I felt like the sky had fallen on me.
I moved out because nothing went right initially. On the domestic front, I had to set up my home from a safety pin to an AC. To make ends meet, I had to work 14 hours a day. It was tough because I didn’t want to eat into my savings. I have always been a workaholic. I made this weakness of mine my strength. I immersed myself in work. Even at work, there were times when I was yelled at for no reason or due to others’ fault.
Another blow to me was when a few of my close friends backstabbed me. People whom I had helped, guided, mentored, loved, or vented to leaked my personal information and carried tales about me. It was appalling and heartbreaking. There was a moment when it got too overwhelming and difficult for me to cope with. I felt lost, and it was scary!
I decided to reach out to my school friend who is a psychologist. She gave me the support I needed and a shoulder to lean on. In the meantime, God sent some wise people into my life. I asked a mature soul, “Why do our people hurt us when our times are tough? Shouldn't they be helping us instead?” I was stumped by his reply. He calmly answered, “If they had given you the solace you wanted, would the bad patch still be a bad patch then? Your journey will be without them. Forgive them as they are forced to behave in that manner for your spiritual awakening.” His words of wisdom sank into my heart like a stone thrown into the deep sea.
I changed my perspective. Pain, agony and misery were replaced by forgiveness, hope and empathy. I gathered myself. The universe conspired to help me. I was amazed to see the amount of unconditional love I received from all directions. Old friends emerged out of nowhere and held me strong. New friendships blossomed. Excellent opportunities came my way. Social contacts flourished. Money multiplied. The bad patch didn’t seem that bad now.
Yes, and the bad patch finally got over. I was always kind and helpful to people. I also never doubted my self-worth. But this suffering made me more humble, grateful, empathetic, forgiving, and stronger as an individual. Today I share a more beautiful bond with my parents-in-law and enjoy co-parenting my daughter with my husband’s support.
The credit for my will to survive and bounce back to life goes to my daughter. She has been the flickering candle in the dark tunnel of hardships. She kept me going. She guarded me unconditionally with her innocent love. I realised children can also be one's strength. Today, at the end of the tunnel, together, we see a bright light- the light of hope, love and success.
They say, “When the time is bad, nothing goes right.” I defy this statement. I feel that when it’s a tough period, one meets oneself.It’s a time of hibernation. It’s a time of self-reflection. Another loving soul kept telling me to not lose hope and consider myself as an aeroplane that has landed on earth for the time being for servicing and refuelling. "You'll take off for a longer and higher journey, so chill and build yourself stronger for the next flight," she always said.
Friends, don’t give up. Life will smile again! Every gloomy night sees a bright day. And yes, always choose to be better and not bitter to people during your low days. This is the time to rebuild and redesign your karma. So, redesign, rebuild, and recreate.